a "milder" cabernet?

[pinot evil]

My wine and I are fans of nice pinot noir in the $12-$20 price range. We've tried a couple cabernet sauvignons, but they've been pretty harsh (to us.) We know that the tannins are necessary to balance hearty red meats, etc., but are there some softer cabernets out there (maybe some blends?) that we would like better with a good steak?
Thanks!
PE