I need a simple answer for 2 simple questions PLEASE!!

[Innkeeper]

To determine if it's the Merlot or the dryness, get a Sutter Home Merlot. If she doesn't like it, it's the Merlot. Would then try a Beaujolais or a Cru Beaujolais such as Moulin-A-Vent. An Italian Barbara would be another avenue to explore. A Barbara d'Alba or d'Asti in the lower price ranges would be a good choice (the higher the price of these wines the "bigger" [more overwhelming for a novice] they get). The Beaujolais and Barbaras are loaded with upfront fruit which gives to some people, the illusion of sweetness (sorry guys, there we go again).