Is Oak the reason I didn't like the Merlot?

[txkajun]

Well, I tried that bottle of Merlot I bought. This was the third bottle I EVER bought in life, as I am so terribly new at this. I hate to say, I didn't really like it. I am not sure why. There was an overpowering "something" to it. I have never tried Merlot, but a thread from Sept about Oak may be on to something. The descriptive terms used by foodie are exactly what was on the bottle.

Should I give up on Merlot, or try others?
I KNOW the only alcohol I really like is sweet (Bailey's Kaluha, and even Sloe Gin). Should I try something sweeter?

Thanks for making me feel so welcome. I am so having fun here!