Finding the right Merlot

[Caesar]

I think I would agree with hotwine's comment and consider another varietal(stand-alone merlots can get a little pricy).Some Zinfandels would fill the bill. Clos du Val 1996 comes to mind...fruity, round, gluggable, visions of a gas grill, music and sun.
If price doesn't bother you, try out Garry Farrel 1997 Merlot, Russian River. Outstanding!(Not a lot of backbone, but a LOT of fun to drink.)