Etiquette question

[Thraz]

I am not sure where this question belongs, so I will try it here.

A friend is coming to dinner tonight, and told me today that he is bringing three (!) good (!!) bottles of wine. However, I already have the wine lined up. So I told him thanks, I will build our next dinner with him around his wines. My wife now tells me that was the ultimate insult - we should open his wines tonight.

So, this question: would reasonable people take my reaction as an insult (he did not seem to but I can't really tell)? Should I just forget about matching wines with dinners I host, and open whatever comes in? Or should I issue instructions not to bring wine along with the invitations?