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- Georgie - 05-14-2003
If someone you know has a drinking problem and that person is coming to stay the weekend, would you put away your wine? Sounds kind of stupid, I guess, but I really don't know what to do. It's like baby-proofing a house. Yes or no?
- hotwine - 05-14-2003
Yes. Along with all accoutrements, such as wine glasses, corkscrews, wine magazines, etc.
- winedope1 - 05-14-2003
I would, Georgie. Unless you knew that this person was comfortable with others around him/her having while they did not. Obviously this is not the case as you are asking this question. So, for what its worth, that's my opinion. hope all goes well, WD
- Bucko - 05-14-2003
WW is visiting?!?!? [img]http://www.wines.com/ubb2/biggrin.gif[/img]
- Innkeeper - 05-14-2003
We have a friend who is an alcoholic and goes to meetings even when she is up here visiting. Her husband isn't and is a wine drinker. They stay here with wine all over the place, and serve it at meals, with alternate beverages for her; all without any problems.
Having said that, there are some people with alcohol problems who can't handle things that well. You have to know and love the people to know how to handle it.
- Georgie - 05-14-2003
Well, I believe that this person is still in the denial stage. I've never had alcohol around in plain sight before...remember I'm a new wine drinker. I think I will just put it away someplace in the basement. Whatever he wants to drink, he'll buy for himself, I'm sure. Kudos to your friend, IK. That's quite commendable. I appreciate your advice, everyone.
- winedope1 - 05-14-2003
I too, have friends with a drinking problem who are fine while others drink around them. This is why I qualified my answer. It is really an individual thing. As IK said- some are able to handle it and others are not. I adjust according to the situation and friends involved. WD
- ShortWiner - 05-15-2003
Sounds to me like putting it away isn't a bad idea in this case, though, Georgie.
- winoweenie - 05-15-2003
Georgie, you could send it to Moi' for safekeeping. I'll forward my Fed-Ex # sos' youse can send it on my nickle. WW [img]http://www.wines.com/ubb2/biggrin.gif[/img]
- Bucko - 05-15-2003
I guess that I am more of a "Be responsible" person. You should not have to do anything at all. The guest should act responsibly. If they can't do that, then they can stay elsewhere.
- Georgie - 05-16-2003
Thanks for your kind offer, WW. While we're at it, let's get the fox to guard the henhouse, shall we? [img]http://www.wines.com/ubb2/smile.gif[/img]
Bucko, part of me completely agrees with you. The man is a guest in my home and should be able to act responsibly. But another part of me is not anxious to spend the weekened with Ray Milland. I hid the wine.
- Thomas - 05-16-2003
Georgie, Ray Milland! You have to explain that to the younguns on this board--
Lost Weekend was the movie's name, from a fabulous book by a fellow named, I think, Charles Jackson.
Incidentally, I am with Bucko's attitude on this one. When I visit I always take the position that in someone else's home I have no rights--they present themselves to me as they wish. I expect the same from my guests. Scoop and IK will tell you that while they spent time at my home last summer they had to endure my crazy ideas of entertaining guests.
[This message has been edited by foodie (edited 05-16-2003).]
- ShortWiner - 05-16-2003
True, but Georgie would like to present her home as a place where, for this friend, drinking is not an option. At the same time, she perhaps doesn't want to have an intervention with the person today, which she might be forced into if wine was sitting around looking inviting. So she quietly puts the wine away. Makes sense to me, though I do think that, to be the best friend you can be to such a person, nudges away from denial are appropriate and important.
- Thomas - 05-16-2003
No doubt about it; it's Georgie's home and she does what she wants. I am saying if I were the guest I would accept whatever she decides, and if I could not live with it, I would not visit.
In fact, I have friends (married couple) with whom I spend time socializing, but after one stint as an overnight guest in their home, I decided never to do that again--it had to do with illegal substances, not wine...
- Georgie - 05-18-2003
Well, as they say, "Life is funny." My houseguest just departed. Alcohol consumed by him during the entire visit? One glass of Merlot at a restaurant Friday evening! He has, apparently, come to grips with his problem and gotten it under control in the year since I last saw him. It was a welcomed change, believe me!
- hotwine - 05-18-2003
Bravo! Thought I heard a big sigh of relief..